Experiencing Midlife Crisis Symptoms? -Take the Test.

'Am I having a midlife crisis?'

Well are you?

Here's a telling test. Below is a list of 30 midlife crisis symptoms .Read through each one and answer 'yes' or 'no' to the following questions.

If you answer 'yes' in most cases then you probably are!

Inner Signs:

1. Unhappy with life in general?
2. Discontent with the lifestyle that has served you well over the years?
3. Sensing the passing of youth and the imminence of old age?
4. Bored and seeking more adventure in life?
5. Questioning decisions you made years ago?
6. Questioning the quality and value of the relationship you have with your partner?
7. Desiring a new, exciting and intimate relationship?
8. Overwhelmed - too much to do and too much going on?
9. Cross with spouse and kids for tying you down?
10.Feeling a loss of identity , loss of moorings?
11.Questioning the meaning and value of your life?
12.Feeling out of control?
13.Bewildered?
14.Concerned about ageing or ill health?
15.Feeling sick and tired?
16.Fearful about your mortality?
17.Living with regrets?
18.Thinking that your skills and talents are going or have gone unrecognised?
19.Stressed?
20.Sitting on unresolved issues from the past?
21.Feeling anxious or depressed?
22.Feeling needy?
23.Restless?
24.Wanting to spend more time alone or with your peers?
25.Lacking in confidence and experiencing low self esteem?
26.Doubting what you've accomplished in life so far?
27.Uncertain about what direction to take for the future?


Midlife Crisis Symptoms - Outer signs:

Do I exhibit any of the following:-

1.Abusive habits for eg alcohol, drugs or over eating?

2.Excessive consumption of unusual or expensive objects such as a sports car, a motorbike, jewellery, gadgets, tattoos...?

3.Excessive attention to my physical appearance?


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I Want to Save My Marriage - Top Causes of Divorce

Your marriage is in jeopardy and you want to do all you can to save your marriage. In order to understand how your relationship has come to this point, we need to review how you got here in the first place. In an endeavor to help you save your marriage, we will first look at the most common causes of divorce.

Oftentimes throughout married life, our priorities change. A marriage consists of two distinct individuals with their own set of values. While in the beginning these values were integral in bringing you together, values and priorities change given certain conditions. For instance, you've had your first child. Priority is now shifted to raising your baby and providing care and guidance for at least the next eighteen years. Too often, the shift in priorities is realized by one parent but not the other. Your life has been altered by the birth of your child. An unparalleled shift in priorities often leads to anger and resentment between the two adults. Difference of opinion in child rearing or an uneven sharing in the duties involved is one of the major causes for divorce.

Boredom is another factor contributing to divorce. Remember when all you experienced together was new and exciting? What happened? Couples become comfortable with each other, busy with routine and eventually are susceptible to complacency. Just as you will put down a book you find boring, many couples today find the only recourse for marital boredom is divorce, or worse - infidelity. That leads us to yet another reason couples choose divorce over remedy.

Infidelity is not only a violation of your marriage vows, but a violation of trust and what holds the marriage as sacred, setting it apart from other relationships. Too often, if infidelity has occurred in your marriage, no matter how many times you plea "I want to save my marriage", there just is no turning back. Trust in a relationship is tantamount. Once that trust is broken, many see no resolution. Intimacy within your relationship becomes spattered with doubt and mistrust. Too often, once infidelity has occurred, no matter how hard you try to forgive and forget, it just doesn't happen. Infidelity is actually the number one cause of divorce. I'm sure that comes as no surprise!

Another leading cause of divorce - and this is probably the most founded reason, is abuse. Whether physical, emotional or psychological, abuse is abuse. If your calls are being monitored, your computer history being checked, made to feel ugly or inadequate, told how to dress or wear your hair, these are all forms of abuse. Aside from the more obvious, physical violation in any way, shape or form, abuse occurs more often than you may be aware.

We have merely scratched the surface revealing the top reasons for divorce. Marriage is an agreement by which you both agreed to share life. It is hard work for the simple fact that you are two separate individuals conjoining to create a life together. In the event your relationship becomes broken or you have lost sight of the common goal, tell yourself, "I want to save my marriage" and do whatever it takes to recognize any of the above factors impinging on your union and do what it takes. Please don't give up until you have recognized the infiltrators of your marriage. Love is precious. It is in your power to keep it alive and thriving!

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What Destroys a Marriage?

Many marriages and dating relationships fail years before the loving couples meet. The exposure to a value system that promotes the acquisition of material possessions has a direct affect on our development as children. We learn early in life to take control of our material possessions.

This activity awakens our selfish nature and fortifies it as we mature. We learn to believe that we can do what we want with those possessions, my wife, my husband, my money, my toys, my bike, my car, my woman, my man, and mine, mine, mine! Unconsciously we believe these possessions are our slaves and should be at our beckon call or perform a particular function that we desire. At anytime, when our possessions do not conform to our desires or expectation, we become outraged. The reality is these are not our possessions, especially human beings.

We want our mates to take a subservient position to our desires. This is the beginning of the end of a healthy marriage or dating relationship. The core of the problems in marriages and dating relationships today is that we rely on traditions and false promises by others and institutions that manipulate our hopes and dreams for profits. We have been led to believe that institutions are held to a higher standard and do not fall into the same category as others who are motivated by selfish desires; but they are! There are in excess of 400,000 marriage counselors, workshops, and therapy sessions posted on the Internet.

Marriage counselors are professing to have the solution for a fee. Do you think they care about your marriage or dating relationship? The judicial branch of government is pointing the finger at the legislative branch. The legislative branch is pointing the finger at the judicial branch, and church organizations are partnering with social scientist to qualify for federal funding to rebuild marriages. Where is the solution?

Dating relationships that lead to marriage is the fundamental social institution deeply rooted in all societies. To uphold and defend the institution of marriage, we must place emphasis on the truth. The institution of marriage should not be built on the traditional foundation of the past. The institution of marriage must be built on a strong foundation representing truth, sincerity, sacrifice, and cooperation, mutually putting our desires and opinions to bay.

Individuals who enter a dating relationship or marriage with opposing objectives, which are to fulfill their own desires, will have a failed dating relationship or marriage. Both participants must understand that individual desires and opinions are the furthest from the truth. The truth is what exists at the moment, or an incident that occurred in the past. The truth is not what one may think is going to happen in the future, nor is it what one may believe should have or could have happened. Falsehood, seeking to fulfill individual desires, and imposing one’s opinions on another are destructive ingredients for all relationships and marriages.

It is time for us to face the truth and to adopt a different posture when seeking a dating partner or a marriage companion. We must change our perspective and evaluate why living together in harmony is such a momentous task. We then must apply the true meaning of love and togetherness and then we can begin to live happily ever after!
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How To Stop The Fighting In Your Relationship

Copyright 2005 Brenda Shoshanna

For some couples fighting is the fire that keeps their relationships alive. It lets them know the other cares. Many are determined to win a battle that never ends. Others try to right the wrongs they have experienced in the past with someone new. Unfortunately, this kind of behavior is doomed to failure. When we bring baggage from a former relationship into the present, all new relationships simply become a continuation of the past.

What People Get Out of Fighting
It is important to understand why couples keep fighting. For some fighting is a fire that keeps their relationships alive. It lets them know the other cares, things aren't really over, and sparks still fly between them. Fighting can keep these couples bonded, causing them to think about each other a great deal. Some love power struggles. They love winning and feeling power over the other. This makes them feel strong.

Fighting can easily become a habit, something individuals fall into automatically and instinctively. Needless to say, fighting prevents real communication. Rather than addressing issues, it causes a situation to remain stuck.

"Without a good fight, a relationship is over," says Mary, a twenty six year old administrative assistant. "The lights have gone off between us. It's a sign my partner no longer cares." Mary, who was recently divorced and is now in another choppy relationship feels that eventually she'll marry a man with whom she can fight - and survive the storms. " I respect a guy who I can fight with, who can take me as I am." For Mary being angry, fighting and winning has became her identity. Without it, she no longer knows who she truly is. She does not see price she is paying for this kind of relationship or what toll it takes on all concerned. Unfortunately, the anger many individuals live with on a daily basis can become crystallized into their identity. Needless to say, this blocks out much of the happiness, flexibility, communication and intimacy they desire. "I'm not letting her walk all over me," Roger would balk whenever his ex wife expressed her needs to him now, or brought up any issue. Rather than listening to what she had to say, he immediately took it as criticism. "She's trying to tell me I'm inadequate," he would declare. The war was on. What started as a conversation, turned into a power struggle. From Roger's point of view, his very manhood was at stake. However, as long as any of us hold onto our anger and continue fighting, there is no hope of working the problems through. Roger could not pause and realize that his partner's needs and feelings had nothing to do with him. He was determined to take whatever she said or did personally and keep feeling badly about himself. However, it's impossible not to receive the fruits of what you have put forth. "As you sow, so shall you reap," is an immutable law of living. Although we may justify all kinds of behavior it is absolutely inevitable that we alll experience the consequences of our thoughts, actions and deeds. There are many steps involved in letting go of anger. The very first is to realize that anger is a toxin. It is not a source of strength or power, but can become an addiction, something that hinders our well being and stops our life from going forward. There are definite steps we can take to undo anger. Here are a few one can take to begin. They are taken from The Anger Diet which offers one step a day for thirty days. These following guidelines are simple, but powerful. Why not try them today and see.

Putting An End To The War

1) Stop Blaming – While we are engaged in pointing a finger, and making the other feel guilty, we cannot see what is really going on. Blame is a way to keep the fight alive. TAKE A VACATION FROM BLAME FOR ONE DAY. Instead of thinking of all the ways the person has hurt you keep your eyes open to watch how you may be stoking the fires. Focus upon what the person has done for you, instead, the ways in which they have been kind.

2) Realize The Price You Are Paying For These Fights Unless we truly realize the terribly toll fighting is taking on us, we will continue it automatically. Take note of the consequences each fight brings, what it is doing to your body, mind and spirit. Then ask, do I truly want this? Haven't I suffered enough? Why not stop it today?

3) Choose To Be Happy Rather Than Right - This is the time to expand your view. Define success as being happy rather than being right. Learn other tools and techniques which will de-escalate anger and make a positive relationship possible..

4) Build A Strong Sense of Self-Worth The best defense against anger is feeling good about yourself. Build a sense of self worth. Treat yourself beautifully and treat your partner beautifully as well. Let go of all that opposes this.

As we have the courage to let go of anger, not only does our health improve, but soon we notice many kinds of wonderful, new people and experiences entering our lives. We attract what we focus upon. When we focus upon well-being, forgiveness and love, that is what will fill our lives.


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My Wife Filed For Divorce - What To Do To Win Her Back?

One day I was browsing a relationship forums and I saw a guy who asked there "My wife filed for divorce - what can I do to win her back?". I decided to help him and one month later he sent me a private massage thanking me for saving his marriage! Here is exactly what I wrote to him...



Give your wife a reason to stop the divorce and stay with you - talking to her it's not enough, you have to make her change her mind! You have to do something big, huge change for both of you like deciding on a new career, start spending more time with the family and less time at work or any other thing that will make her to see her future with you!



Bring back the emotions and the love you had in the start - make her feel the same way she felt for you years ago! Show her you are still that romantic guy who she fell in love with! I don't have to explain you what exactly to do - you are the one who made her fall in love with you and marry you. The point is - love will help you to win your wife back and save your marriage!



Stop arguing and fighting with her - in the second paragraph I said you have to give her a reason to stay, the arguing and fighting are the reason she wants to leave! Nobody can survive in a relationship full of fights and anger! So from today if she asks you to put your socks in place or do the dishes, even if you are watching very important game on TV and it's pay per view - get up and do it.



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