How Can I Save Our Relationship?

Is it possible to save a relationship and is it worth saving? Many couples go through times when they begin to feel that their partners aren’t there for them. They’re too busy with work or looking after the children. All their energy seems to be focused away from you. In time, communication between the two of you may break down. So, how can you save your relationship?

Firstly, you both need to decide whether the relationship is worth saving. It takes hard work to save a relationship but only when both parties involved have made their choice. More often than not, there is little that can be done for a relationship if one of you is willing to make it work. Saving a relationship starts with the commitment of both of you.

Once you’ve both committed yourselves to saving your relationship, the next step is to identify the problems within the relationship. The can be a big problem for some as many people believe that what happens as a result of these problems is where the actual problems lie. Take an affair for example. Many people think this is the problem; when in fact, the problem lies in what caused the affair to happen. This being a lack of intimacy in the relationship that ultimately led to a straying spouse.

If the lack of intimacy isn’t dealt with, the only thing stopping someone from having another affair is guilt. This is why it’s important to work on the core issues in order to save your relationship. Once these have been identified, you can begin to talk them over with your partner.

Make your own feelings known to your partner an in turn listen to their feelings and concerns. When you’re verbalizing your problems, gently take hold of your partner’s hand as a signal that you want to reconnect with them. If they start talking of things they might have done to hurt you, they’re not doing so to hurt you now, but rather because they want to save the relationship as much as you.

Once the problems in your relationship have been identified and discussed, you both need to create a plan of action and follow it through. If one of the main problems was that you didn’t spend any time with each other, try to find one night a week for yourselves. Find new ways to spend time with each other. Remember to follow it through. Realize that saving a relationship is an ongoing process. There will be good times ahead, as well as tough times too.